"Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere"
We all get worried sometimes. It's completely normal, but more often than not a waste of time. Why? Because 90% of what we worry about doesn't even happen and let's face it worrying doesn't actually change a thing, it only steals your happiness. Nevertheless, we still worry anyway.
The BIG problems occur when it happens too often - this is because it can drain our energy leading us to become unproductive, it can effect the way we deal with others and is proven to have a major impact on our stress levels and consequently, our health.
Worry tends to be a result of fear. Fear of failing, making mistakes or experiencing some sort of rejection. Although it is an emotion considered common amongst all people, it's important to learn how to shake it off, pronto. Here's a few helpful ideas to get you started:
We all get worried sometimes. It's completely normal, but more often than not a waste of time. Why? Because 90% of what we worry about doesn't even happen and let's face it worrying doesn't actually change a thing, it only steals your happiness. Nevertheless, we still worry anyway.
The BIG problems occur when it happens too often - this is because it can drain our energy leading us to become unproductive, it can effect the way we deal with others and is proven to have a major impact on our stress levels and consequently, our health.
Worry tends to be a result of fear. Fear of failing, making mistakes or experiencing some sort of rejection. Although it is an emotion considered common amongst all people, it's important to learn how to shake it off, pronto. Here's a few helpful ideas to get you started:
1) WHO CARES?!
One of the main reasons we worry is because we stop to think about what others might think about us. Learn to say "So what, who cares? I know what I'm doing is right and that's what counts!" After all, you only get one chance at life, is it really worth allowing others to make it less enjoyable for you? Plus, people's opinions change all the time, give it time. Remember when that person said they hated the colour yellow and now they've just bought a yellow jacket? Okay- so maybe that's not the best example but the point is people's minds always change, so what they think now may not matter later on.
One of the main reasons we worry is because we stop to think about what others might think about us. Learn to say "So what, who cares? I know what I'm doing is right and that's what counts!" After all, you only get one chance at life, is it really worth allowing others to make it less enjoyable for you? Plus, people's opinions change all the time, give it time. Remember when that person said they hated the colour yellow and now they've just bought a yellow jacket? Okay- so maybe that's not the best example but the point is people's minds always change, so what they think now may not matter later on.
2) DON'T FOCUS ON THE PROBLEM
Another factor that leads to worry is that we tend to focus on the problem and forget that we need to find a solution. You will be surprised to find just how fast you can find a solution when you learn to recognise problems once , then change your thoughts to focusing on finding a solution rather than going over any problems again and again.
3) Organise & prioritise
Another factor that leads to worry is that we tend to focus on the problem and forget that we need to find a solution. You will be surprised to find just how fast you can find a solution when you learn to recognise problems once , then change your thoughts to focusing on finding a solution rather than going over any problems again and again.
3) Organise & prioritise
The root of most of our worries stem from lack of preparation for a situation. Learn to organise your days, to-do lists can be helpful as long as you don't create them with unrealistic expectations. It's common to give ourselves so many tasks to do in a day because we want or need to get them all done. However, overloading yourself can have the opposite effect, causing you too feel overwhelmed with tasks and therefore completing nothing or very little just because the thought of running behind brings you stress. You can stop this form of self-sabotage by setting your priorities straight, maybe write a list of all the things you need or want to do and at the beginning of each day asking yourself, "If I could only get three things done today, what would I like them to be? What's top priority."
4) Get support
Sometimes having someone either simply listen or share advice can help you find a solution to whatever it is you're worrying about. So next time you find yourself worrying about something, why not talk to a friend?
5) Change your perspective
5) Change your perspective
Something that is really great to do is to try and see your situation from another perspective. For instance if it was a friend in the situation you're in, what advice might you give them? We tend to be really good at giving others advice and not so good at helping ourselves out. Viewing a situation as an observer rather than someone who is part of the situation at hand, can inspire a clear solution.
6) Write about it.
Writing is a great way to gain perspective. Often when someone writes down their thoughts, a solution becomes apparent during the process. When your thoughts are in front of you they can often appear less stressful.
"Worry is a misuse of imagination."
Love and light
xo
